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Odd One Out is a Finalist in the Indie Excellence Awards!

We got news yesterday that my book, Odd One Out: The Maverick's Guide to Adult ADD, is a FINALIST in the 2008 Indie Excellence Book Awards!

I'm so excited about this. Although Odd One Out didn't actually win the category, being one of three finalists is one hell of an honor!!

In Other News...

Last weekend I attended the AD/HD Coaches Organization annual conference in St. Louis and had a great time connecting with fellow coaches. And I want to give a special shout out to Charlotte, who brought her Odd One Out book all the way from Denmark for me to sign! I wish I took a picture of us to share.

Unfortunately, I came home from the conference feeling under the weather. I blame it on the hotel which must have been loaded with dust and mold because it gave me awful asthma...and I haven't had asthma since I was a kid! If you're ever in St. Louis, don't stay at the Holiday Inn Oakland Park. Seriously.

As a result, I had to take a few days off to recuperate, and I ended up having to postpone the ADD Clutter Busters Workgroup! Fortunately, all the members were very kind and understanding, and the group will now begin on May 13.

And lastly, Erin and I are in for a wild ride this weekend as we're watching my cousin's kids for the night. Michael and Alex are 6 and 5, extremely cute, and incredibly hyper. We have a full day planned tomorrow, and I'm sure it will be both fun and taxing. Let's see if Erin still wants kids when it's all over!

Have a great weekend!

ADD Book Club: Not Too Late to Join this Month!

This month the ADD Book Club is discussing Nancy Ratey's new book, The Disorganized Mind: Coaching Your ADHD Brain to Take Control of Your Time, Tasks, and Talents.

The book club is offered through ADDclasses.com and is led by coaches Scott Lewis and Cindy Giardina. Cindy told me recently that the book club is a supportive environment in which ADDers, especially those who are newly diagnosed, can learn about ADD while connecting with peers.

And the great thing about this book club is that Cindy and Scott don't just facilitate a conversation about the books, they also help members act on the lessons and strategies that the authors offer.

I've heard great things about The Disorganized Mind and I can't wait to read it, myself! If you'd like to join the ADD Book Club, you can find out more here.

Great Client Quotes:Messes

“I need someone to clean up the messes I make because I’m too busy making them.”

JeanneMarie, in the Odd One Out Coaching Program

Great Client Quotes: ADDers

"I've read recently on a couple of blogs that the term "ADDer" has been deemed offensive by some folks...As you might expect, I also have an opinion on the subject: if you're looking for a cause to fight for, this isn't a worthy one."

- ADD-Libber
From the post Name it so you can claim it.

Authenticity and ADD

The ADD community has been pretty vocal lately, as you may be aware.

Some people feel that they are being taken advantage of by ADD professionals who market their services online.

And others are upset about what they consider to be the high fees for ADD-related products and services. They want to know why getting help costs so much money.

Maybe you've been wondering about these things, too?

I think it's time for me to weigh in.

Hey, What's That Smell?

One of the things I pride myself on is authenticity.

When you read my book, newsletters, or blog, you're reading my authentic voice. Clients, friends, and family members have all commented that reading my book is like having a conversation with me.

The same is true when you coach with me, either privately or in a group. I say what I think in the way that I think it will be best received.

In fact, the only thing I hold back on in my life and my work is swearing. I curse like a truck driver. Some people are fine with this, and I try to tone it down for others. And I caused quite a few jaws to drop when I accidentally let the s-word slip at Disney a few years ago. It could have been much worse-believe me.

Here's what I really think about authenticity and ADD:

While some people believe that adults with ADD can be easily taken advantage of, I actually think that the vast majority of us can smell a bullshit artist a mile away. I know I certainly can.

I can also tell when well-meaning people say or do things that don't come across the way they intend them to.

Have YOU ever stuck your foot in your mouth? Ever said something that came out completely wrong and ended up hurting someone's feelings? I have. Many times.

So I try not to hold it against other people who are saying one thing when they actually mean another. Sometimes the best intentions are overshadowed by poor communication.

That said,...

One Size Does Not Fit All in the World of ADD

If you take medication for ADD, then you know that there are a bunch of different meds out there and that it can take a while to find the one that works for you. And then it can take a while to find the right dose!

And if you've read a bunch of books on ADD, then you probably found one or two that you didn't like as much as everyone else did. The same holds true for websites, support groups, and other resources. You might find value in something that others don't.

We all have ADD, but we're all individuals.

This applies to marketing, too. My sense is that many people have been turned off not so much by the ADD professionals who are marketing themselves, but by the one-size-fits-all marketing approaches that they've encountered.

These marketing approaches can sometimes come off as sleazy or, worse yet, inauthentic. If you find yourself turned off by such an approach, then that's okay.

If you don't like the way one person markets their services, you can always find what you're looking for elsewhere.

Take this newsletter, for example. Some people are going to hear my voice and instantly relate to it. Others won't. That's the way it goes.

And you know what, that's a good thing! If someone doesn't relate to me, or even like me, that's okay. I don't like everyone, either! And the good news is that there are plenty of other ADD coaches and service providers out there. It's not hard to find someone that you can relate to.

It's also worth noting that for many of us in the professional field, our work is our livelihood. Just like any other service provider, we have certain fees that we charge based on a number of factors, including our own experience and the value that people receive from our services.

If you wanted help with real estate, you'd pay more for personal advice from Donald Trump than you would to attend one of his seminars. And you'd pay more for his seminars than you would to read his books. The same is true in the world of ADD.

Which brings me to my last point. I have a very stong opinion about finding help for ADD:

If you NEED help for ADD, then don't look for it online. Look for a doctor, therapist, or support group in your local area. Sometimes you have to travel further than you would like or spend more than you want to, but it's worth it.

If you WANT help for ADD, but the situation isn't dire, then broaden your search beyond your local area. This is where the Internet and trends in global communication really pay off.

Just remember that there are plenty of professionals offering their services.

One size doesn't fit all.

What Do YOU Think?

I would really love to hear your thoughts on the subject of "authenticity and ADD."

Let's have a conversation. I encourage you to tell me what you think in the comments field below.

Great Client Quotes: Overwhelm

"I feel like I'm burning the candle at both ends...with a blowtorch!"

Steffanie, in the Odd One Out Coaching Program

Resources from ADDitude Magazine

I have a couple of resources to share with you today from ADDitude Magazine.

First, ADDitude has a new blog roll posted on their site in which they index ADD-related blogs. Check it out for some fun and interesting reading!

Also, ADDitude has released the article Tame Time: The Best Planners for ADHD Adults by Coach Sandy Maynard as a preview for their Summer issue. If you enjoy this article, you might also be interested in our upcoming Time Management Masters Seminar.

And by the way, Sandy is one of the experts scheduled to speak at the Virtual AD/HD Conference™ in September!

Master the Art of Time Management

In the spirit of the Time Management Masters Seminar, here are my Top 5 Time Management Tips for Adults with ADD:

1. Take 15 minutes every single day to plan your schedule. A small investment in planning goes a long way towards reducing stress and overwhelm.


2. Always keep a to-do list. Your to-do list is your friend. It helps you keep track of all those tasks  that are so easily forgotten.


3. Pay attention to your  biorhythms.  Work with your natural energy levels instead of trying to change them.


4. Schedule down time and relaxation. Self-care is one of the first things to be sacrificed when things get busy.


5. Don't give up when you get overwhelmed. It's normal to fall off track every now and then. Don't beat yourself up. Do recharge and resume steps 1-4 as soon as possible.

Time Management Masters Seminar

I'm pleased to finally offer the Time Management Masters Seminar to those who have been eagerly awaiting an opportunity to learn effective, ADD-friendly time management systems.                      

In the Time Management Masters Seminar, you'll be guided through the following steps for creating and utilizing a personalized, ADD-friendly time management system.

Week 1: Tools & To-Dos                      

• Custom-create a to-do list that will work for you
• Discover the various time management tools that are available, and find out how to pick the right tools for you
• Develop a daily planning routine

Week 2: Schedule Management & Daily Planning                          

• Put your time management tools to work efficiently and effectively
• Determine your "pillars of structure" and plan around them
• Develop structure based on  your natural biorhythms and energy levels
• Use a secret, ADD-friendly trick for getting things done

Week 3: Task Management & Weekly Planning                          

• Get a firm grasp on  your various responsibilities
• Create a safety net for your new  time management system
• Learn how to plan for and manage projects through their completion
• Create a system for managing "all those great ideas" that you come up with, but never have time for

Week 4: Practice & Problem Solving

• Learn how to get over roadblocks and hiccups in your progress
• Troubleshoot any challenges you've encountered in your new time management system

The seminar begins June 3 and includes teleseminars, notes, worksheets, and more.

Discounts Are Available!                                      

The Early Bird Rate of $177 (a savings of $20) is available through midnight EST on Wednesday, April 30.

OR, save $47 when you register for both the Time Management Masters Seminar AND the ADD Clutter Busters Workgroup for just $297!

Get more info or register at the program websites.

My Big Announcement: Virtual AD/HD Conference™

Okay, for weeks now I've been teasing you about a big announcement that I've been wanting to share. I promised that it would include the top experts in the world of AD/HD, and that everyone would want to know about it. Well, here it is:

Have you ever wanted to attend an AD/HD conference, but hesitated over the time, travel, and costs involved? Do you wish there was an easier way to learn from the experts and network with your AD/HD peers? Now there is!

We here at the ADD Management Group have teamed up with Terry Matlen at  ADD Consults to sponsor the 1st Annual Virtual AD/HD Conference™! This unique event offers all the benefits of a physical conference, plus it's super affordable and ultra convenient.                      

The Virtual AD/HD Conference™ is scheduled for this September, and we already have over 20 of the top AD/HD experts  lined up, including authors:                     

• Edward Hallowell, M.D.
• Daniel Amen, M.D.
• Sari Solden, M.S., L.M.F.T.
• John Ratey, M.D.
• Patricia Quinn, M.D.
• Plus many other top doctors, therapists, psychologists, counselors, and coaches!                      

Terry  and I have been working very hard to create an event that far exceeds your expectations. Our website is not up yet, but you can look for an email in the next week or two with an "official" announcement.

For now, consider yourself one of the very first people to hear about the Virtual AD/HD Conference™!

ADD Moment: Thank You for Not Burning

Last week I made spaghetti and meatballs for dinner. In typical ADD fashion, I temporarily forgot about the meatballs on the stove and was about 10 minutes late checking on them. I ran downstairs and crept over to the pot with trepidation. I was afraid I burned dinner.

I lifted the lid and was relieved to find that all was well "Oh thank you, meatballs!" I exclaimed. "Thank you for waiting for me and not burning!"

At that moment, Erin burst out laughing in another room. "What's so funny?" I asked.

"You," she said. "You do realize that you're talking to meatballs, right?"

Hey, whatever works.