A Quick Way to Dump the Shoulds

Before diving into the excerpt about 'ADDjusting Your Attitude' for ADD Management by dumping the shoulds in your life, I wanted to let you know that we are wrapping up preproduction on the book. This means that the presale discount will only be available until this Saturday, September 22.

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An Excerpt from  Odd One Out: The Maverick's Guide to Adult ADD             

Dump the "Shoulds"

From Chapter 5: ADDjust Your Attitude                      

If you count the number of times you say the word “should”  to yourself in one day, you’ll be amazed.

The word “should” often puts undue pressure on you to conform to standards that probably aren’t even your own. The next time you catch yourself thinking about something that you should do, ask yourself if that should is a need, a want, or guilt.                      

Let’s break down one particular example: I should clean my closet.               

I need to clean my closet. You threw all your tax receipts in your closet somewhere  and your taxes are due! You need to clean  your closet to find those receipts and file your taxes on time. Make a plan to get it done.            

I want to clean my closet. Your closet is a mess and it’s driving you crazy! You can never seem to find what you’re looking for and you’re ready to change that. You want to clean your closet to make your  life easier. When you’re ready, make a plan. Have some  fun with it.          

I’m guilting myself about cleaning the closet. Your closet doesn’t really bother you so much. It’s not the neatest closet, but you can find what you’re looking for and it suits you fine. But…you just visited your friend and her closet is spotless and super organized. You feel guilty because  your closet isn’t as nice as her closet. Get over it and move on.

The vast majority of “shoulds” are really just useless  guilt. The guilt results when you compare yourself to others and feel like you  don’t measure up. It serves no useful purpose. It doesn’t help you get things done. Instead, it knocks your self-esteem and decreases your motivation.                      

Remember, mavericks make their own rules! It doesn’t matter if your lifestyle or systems work for other people, they only need to work for you...

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Comments

[Heidi]

I really liked this excerpt about "should's". It's so true for me. I have a terrible sense of how to prioritize tasks (all seem equal in my book) and literally could screw around a whole hour doing something unnecessary. I definitely get my wants, needs, and guilts mixed up. It's incredibly frustrating because I hate being in a state of indecision. I need for decisions to be quick and easy, and feel confident afterwards. Your distinction between shoulds is a good solution. Thanks for your helpful insight!!

[Doug E]

Will this be available on Amazon.com?

[Jen Koretsky]

Heidi - glad you found the info helpful!

Doug - yes, the book will be available on Amazon. However, it will cost more on Amazon than it will if you buy from us. See the beginning of the post for more info on this.