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Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Sound Advice for Achieving Goals

Today's the big day - the Pennsylvania Primaries! I'm already excited and you can bet that I'll be glued to the television tonight.

While we wait for the results, I thought I'd share some words of wisdom that I received in an email last week from none other than Bill Clinton. (More likely someone in Hillary's campaign pretending to be Bill, but whatever.)

I'm going to give you the same advice I give to Hillary: block out the distractions -- the skeptics, the media coverage, the beltway chatter -- and keep your eyes on the prize.

With the news media constantly poring over the minutiae of the campaign, I make sure Hillary never forgets to stay focused on what matters: telling every last American about her vision, her experience, and her commitment to bringing real change to people's lives.

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Sound advice, no matter what your goal.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

March mADDness Week 3: Spring Cleaning

I think I've heard the word "bracketology" more than any other this week. I've never been a sports fan, but somehow I always did alright in basketball and football pools when I worked in a corporate office! It used to really piss off my friends who lived for sports when I made my picks based on which uniforms I preferred and which team had the fiercest sounding name. But it often worked!

I do miss the March Madness festivities though, so this year I've created my own. So far, I've given away an autographed copy of my book and a coaching toolkit to readers who comment on my blog posts. ThisClutter week, in honor of Spring, I'm giving away our most popular product (not counting my book), the coaching toolkit Kiss Your Clutter Goodbye!

To Enter:
In the comments field below, tell us the first thing you're going to tackle for Spring cleaning.

Deadline: Comments must be posted by midnight EST on Sunday March 23rd. The winner will be announced on Monday March 24.

Note: You MUST include your name, email address, and your Spring cleaning item in your comment. At minimum, please include your first name and last initial. Your name will be published, your email address will not be.

The winner will be chosen at random (by Rascal - see Week 1) from all eligible entries and notified by email, as well as on the blog.

Good luck!


Monday, March 17, 2008

March mADDness Week 2 Winner

The winner of our second March mADDness giveaway is Kristin C!

Once again, Rascal couldn't resist grabbing something that didn't belong to him, so writing the names of the eligible entries on scraps of paper, mixing them up in a cap, and nonchalantly placing them on the floor continues to work for randomly selecting our winners.

Kristin submitted this tip for managing ADD in the family environment:

In our house we use checklists for everything. A checklist for bed time, a checklist for wake up time, a checklist for chores and a checklist for homework. And thats just the kids!

Hmmm...makes me wonder what Kristin's checklists look like! :) Congratulations, Kristin! We'll be contacting you offline to get your address and send you our coaching toolkit, Taming the Family Circus: Solutions for AD/HD Parents with AD/HD Kids.

Our next March mADDness giveway contest is tomorrow - don't miss it!

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

I Saw Right Through You, Spitzer

Okay, if you know me at all or read this blog even once in a while, then you can probably guess that I am a die hard Democrat. But that doesn't mean that I like, or trust, all Democrats. I knew a long time ago that, despite a glowing reputation and lots of good deeds as our New York State Attorney General, there was something a little off about Governor Eliot Spitzer.

So as we watched CNN report on the Spitzer sex scandal last night and a journalist conveyed that the entire newsroom was in shock as the details emerged, I looked over at Erin with a smirk on my face. "I know," she said. "You called it a long time ago."

I have a sort of sixth sense when it comes to reading people. I can often tell when people are sincere, and I can call bullshit faster than most. I am also pretty good at seeing ulterior motives, although I have been burnt for being too trusting in the past. For the most part, however, I'm usually right on target in my assessments.

One of my most impressive calls was Bruce Ritter, a Catholic priest and the founder of Covenant House for homeless teens. My mom was reading his book one day, aptly titled Sometimes God Has a Kid's Face. I took one look at the guy's picture on the back of the book and announced "Some thing is not right about this guy. He looks like a child abuser." My mother then informed me that he was saving kids from abuse, but I didn't buy it. I read parts of the book and my suspicions grew stronger. I was 11 or 12 at the time. And a year or two after that, the scandal broke. I wasn't surprised. (Man, I just made myself sound like one hell of a cynical child, didn't I?)

My mom, who is undiagnosed but most likely ADD, is pretty good at reading people, too. (Even though she clearly didn't pick up on Bruce Ritter.) And my ADD brother has a similar skill, although I think I'm quite a bit better!

I've also noticed that certain clients are really good at reading people, too. (And yet other clients complain that they can't read people to save their lives!) I've often wondered if this "sixth sense" is in some way related to ADD. Is it a heightened sense of intuition? Maybe strong levels of empathy  that allow us to tune into other people more than most? What do you think?

Do you have a knack for reading people? If so, do you think that your ADD helps this skill? Please share your thoughts!

March mADDness Week 2: ADD In The Family

Yesterday I announced the winner of our first March mADDness giveaway! Let's keep the prizes rolling with our next contest.

March mADDness Week 2: ADD In The Family

Familycircus Prize: The ADD Management Group Coaching Toolkit, Taming the Family Circus: Solutions for AD/HD Parents with AD/HD Kids.

Since this prize is a toolkit specifically designed for families with ADD kids, please enter only if you (or someone you know) would benefit from a coaching toolkit on this topic. This will be the only prize this month specifically geared towards parents.

To Enter: In the comments field below, share a tip for managing ADD in the family environment. Have you figured out a way to get your ADD kid to go to bed on time? Found the perfect solution to help your ADD husband remember to take out the garbage? Discovered the best way to take care of yourself amidst all the chaos? Tell us about it!

Deadline: Comments must be posted by midnight EST on Sunday March 16th. The winner will be announced on Monday March 17.

Note: You MUST include your name, email address, and an ADD moment to be eligible for the prize. (At minimum, please include your first name and last initial. Your name will be published, your email address will not be.)

The winner will be chosen at random (by Rascal) from all eligible entries and notified by email, as well as on the blog.

Good luck!

Monday, March 10, 2008

March mADDness Week 1 Winner

The winner of our first March mADDness giveaway is Beth B! Beth submitted this very funny "ADD moment."

Well when I lived in Japan there was no central heating. There was a heating table called a kotatsu that I sat at to keep warm. It wrinkled the clothes terribly so of course in the morning I would just wear my slip and put on my skirt as I was heading out the door.

Of course one day I went out the door without paying attention. I couldn't understand why people were looking at me funny. They often stared at me because I was a foreigner. When I looked down and saw the lace of my slip but no skirt I was mortified but laughed. I had to turn around and take a different bus back home, laughing the whole way.

The Japanese also thought it was odd that I would tell this story on myself shortly after it happened.

Congratulations, Beth! We'll be contacting you offline to get your address and send you the autographed copy of Odd One Out: The Maverick's Guide to Adult ADD.

I had my own ADD moment today when trying to randomly choose a winner from the eligible entries. The method that I eventually settled on worked well, and I think it's the way we'll choose the random winners for the rest of the month. Here's what I did:

  1. I wrote the names of all the eligible entries on a small pieces of paper and folded each one twice.
  2. I placed all the papers in a baseball cap, and shook them up.
  3. I nonchalantly placed the cap on the floor and walked away, knowing Rascal couldn't resist stealing one. I was right.
  4. I chased him until he gave up the stolen paper, and then read the winner's name. It was a fun time for both of us.
Thanks to all who participated! If you didn't win, don't fret, you still have three more chances to win a prize this month. Tomorrow I'll announce the next March mADDness contest.

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Friday, March 07, 2008

Spring Fever

Here in New York, we're enjoying some warmer weather and--more importantly--sunlight!! I'm getting restless and eagerly anticipating hikes in the Shawangunk Mountains, CSA bounty, and barbecues on the deck.

In the past couple of weeks, I've been getting similar reports from my Northeast clients. As Spring inches closer, we all seem to have more energy and a desire to get out and do more.

I remember having a conversation with my doctor some time ago about Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). I told her that I thought I might have SAD because every Fall I start feeling homey and nesting. By Winter, when the light is minimal, I lose my energy, have a hard time getting motivated, and want to sleep more. Then, when the weather starts turning in March, I'm like a whole new person--re-energized and, well, just plain 'ol happy!

She told me that adults with ADD are super sensitive to the seasons and while she didn't think I warranted a SAD diagnosis, she wasn't surprised by what I was telling her. Most of her ADD patients had the same experience. So right about now, many of us are enjoying the longer days and increasingly warm weather.

And the news gets even better for those of us in Daylight Savings Time areas...we turn the clocks ahead THIS WEEKEND! We've been given a gift of extended DST this year, meaning that we'll soon be enjoying even more sunlight that lasts longer into the evening.

For that, I will gladly trade an hour of sleep on Sunday morning.

Oh, who am I kidding? I'll just sleep an extra hour later! Life is good.

         

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

March mADDness Week 1: ADD Moments

Why should basketball fans have all the fun in March?

You don't need to know your brackets to win some cool stuff this season. All you need to do is comment on a blog post and you just might win a prize! I'll be giving away free products this month, just for the hell of it.

So let's get started...who wants some swag??

March mADDness Week 1: ADD MomentsOddoneoutcover180x252

Prize: An autographed copy of my book, Odd One Out: The Maverick's Guide to Adult ADD

To Enter: In the comments field below, post your best and/or funniest ADD moment. "ADD moments" are those times when your ADD causes a comical or awkward situation.

Deadline: Comments must be posted by midnight EST on Sunday March 9th. The winner will be announced on Monday March 10.

You MUST include your name, email address, and an ADD moment to be eligible for the prize. (At minimum, please include your first name and last initial. Your name will be published, your email address will not be.)

The winner will be chosen at random from all eligible entries and notified by email, as well as on the blog.

Good luck!

Monday, February 04, 2008

Coaching, "Change" in the U.S., and Why I'm Voting for Hillary in the Democratic Primary

A few weeks ago my friend Chris Barrow brilliantly remarked that paying for a coach is the way to get ahead because the right coach "holds a bigger vision for you and your business than you hold for yourself."

While he was talking about business coaching, his statement certainly applies to all forms of coaching, ADD coaching included. I can see possibilities for my clients and challenge them to achieve and succeed  in ways they never before allowed themselves to imagine. When the client experiences success and gets infected with the "possibilities virus," there is no stopping them. But as I've said before, the client ultimately does the work. I can't do it for them.

I enjoy watching clients grow and succeed because that's my job; I'm a coach, and I support my clients in their personal growth. Barack Obama cannot do this, because he's not a coach. He's a politician, and a Presidential candidate. And while his sense of optimism is endearing, inspiring the American people doesn't add up to much when you're the leader of the free world. Just look at Ronald Reagan.

Listen, I like Barack Obama. I really do. I would love to see him as Vice President. Hell, I'd vote for him to go all the way in 2016! At that point he'll have more experience doing, not just talking.

On the verge of Super Tuesday and the following primaries, we have to be careful. Barack Obama is not a deity and, no matter how pure and great his intentions are, he can't make all our problems magically disappear. I worry that this kind of wishful thinking will lead us down a bad path.

The truth of the matter is that we do need change in the U.S. Pointing this out does not make Obama a genius--it makes him Captain Obvious.

What is less obvious, at least in the current media climate, is that the country is in crisis. Millions of people don't have health care coverage. The economy is rapidly declining. Osama bin Laden is cozying up in a cave while the U.S. military continues to lose soldiers on a daily basis in Iraq. Greed and power dominate U.S. foreign policy and have cost us allies and the respect of many countries.

Yes, Barack, something needs to change. But I question your ability to make it happen. You're applying to be our leader, not our coach.

The truth of the matter is that there is a candidate who is practical, optimistic, and experienced. And that's Hillary. It's not about whether or not you like her personally, but about the job she can do to turn this country around. (Incidentally, I have never met an anti-Hillary person who could give me a valid political reason for not liking her. "She's a carpet-bagger," "She should have left Bill," and "I just think she's a bitch" are not valid political reasons.)

Hillary has been in politics her whole life and is more in touch with the American people than any other candidate running on either side. The country's health care crisis has been her passion for over a decade. As our Senator in New York, she's worked for the many different people who keep our economy thriving--from big business in the city to small farms upstate. She's committed to making it work for everyone. She's also a gifted communicator who has a unique ability to reach out and be heard by the world leaders who are tired of empty talk. She understands that we need these leaders to secure our place as a respected global leader.

I don't want my President to be my coach and tell me that change is possible. I want my President to know that change is possible, roll up her sleeves, and get to work. That's why I'm voting for Hillary to be my president, and getting my coaching elsewhere.

Wednesday, January 02, 2008

Odd One Out: Tons of Stuff Going On This Month!

Whether you've already read the book or are just getting started, there's tons of events and happenings going on this month to help you dig into the material!

ADDclasses.com is offering the recording of my December teleclass, The Maverick Approach to ADD Management, free of charge until midnight EST on Friday. The class is a great introduction to the book.

The ADD Book Club, led by coaches Cindy Giardina and Scott Lewis, will be discussing Odd One Out this month. This the perfect opportunity to discuss the themes in the book with your peers, and a couple of ADD coaches! The club begins this month on January 7th.

The Odd One Out Coaching Program is an intensive coaching program for a select few adults who are ready to embrace their inner maverick and make some serious changes! Two sections available, but limited to 10 participants in each section and there are just a few spaces left.

And if you haven't got your copy of the book yet, what are you waiting for? Purchase your copy here...if you can handle it!